(For those who may not know what I’m talking about but are afraid to ask…I have endnotes)
I’m not saying it was my stylist’s fault, and I’m not saying it was mine for leaving my weave in for over three months, I’m just saying if God hadn’t heard my desperate cries by the bathroom sink a couple weeks back, I would have been lost, bewildered, and late for work.
Ok, this story begins all the way back in August of 2013 when I decided I was going to grow my hair out natural (1). I couldn’t get an appointment in to see my stylist for a couple weeks, so I thought, may as well go for it. (I’d thought about it off and on for months.) Well, things were going well with me just wet set curling (2) it, but as I prepared to move to Europe, I thought I’d try a weave/sew in (3).
I felt so glamorous! I was off to Europe with my do, and without a clue. Sooo, 3 months in, it was still sitting on top of my head, and I was really, really nervous. I called my stylist back home who told me to take it down, “You’re in the danger zone,” she said calmly.
I asked around a lot and finally found a “kitchen-tician”(4)stylist on the installation. She and her friend took it down (undid the cornrows beneath my weave) and wow, my real hair felt like ropes of macramé (5) in the back. It had locked(6) together, just as I feared!
Those girls were so determined to save my hair, they conditioned and detangled and pushed and pulled, and yanked and tugged and magically opened my hair. They put humectant on it to soften what seemed to have fossilized— After more conditioning, cutting, and flat ironing, it actually looked great.
The next day it rained, and my hair puffed up. I was not used to this. Half my hair was still relaxed(7), and half was natural. And my hair is good (because everything God makes is) and very kinky in its natural state. It hurts to comb it! So I really do need to learn new techniques, but I was far from home. So, I got on Youtube and watched girls doing amazing things with natural hair. I tried a twist roll out. It looked good for a day. Then it didn’t look so hot. Next day I decided to try to flat iron it with a
borrowed iron. I realized I’d forgotten to even bring a comb to Germany and had limited hair products. It wasn’t going to work-my hair had knots in it. Then I tried to twist again and let it dry in less than an hour, it looked like –NOOO! A hot mess. “I can’t go to work like this!” I felt myself getting hot, feeling completely overwhelmed, panicky, and very very sad.
I had just ordered a wig for desperate moments. I grabbed it and put it on. If I had been singing with the Supremes or hanging out in ATL at a basketball wives event, it would have looked great, but the kids I work with would have been obsessed with it all day if I’d shown up at school that way. I was fighting back tears at this point. I yelled out a prayer,” Help me Jesus!”, and that’s when God answered. In a flash of inspiration, He gave me the idea to grab a rubber band and pull my wig back. It worked. I was so happy. I put on a maxi dress and got compliments all day long.
And that’s how I found out that God knows how to do my hair 🙂
Later on, I met a woman who told me she could do twists, which is what I’m wearing now. Yayyyy….
1) The way God planted it on my head…tightly coiled. The concept of going natural is about being proud of who we are and learning to love our natural beauty. However, after so many years of using chemical straighteners, many of us have to relearn how to manage our natural hair. So the weave was an easy option as I grew it out.
(2) Sitting under a dryer with rollers.
(3) Hair extensions that are easier to manage than your own hair at times.
(4) Someone who does hair out of their own home.
(5) Woven hemp
(6) As in unintentional dreadlocks
(7) Chemically straightened hair that will not curl when wet